For a Kinder, Gentler Society
On Love
A Philosophical Dialogue
  • Nicholas J. Pappas
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On Love. A Philosophical Dialogue
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The multifaceted topic of love is examined from all angles in an ongoing conversation between two thoughtful characters, Director and Handsome. Over coffee, over wine, over a certain stretch of time, they explore together the apparent and not-so-apparent nuances of friendship, attraction, respect and romance, why opposites attract and why common ground too is so necessary to us as we chart our course through life. While they're at it, they also compare notes on how to identify and approach a possible prospect and how to make the project a pleasure for everyone involved.

About the Author

Nicholas J. Pappas, author of several books with Algora, graduated with honors in English Language and Literature from the University of Chicago and earned a Law degree at Harvard University. He has written over 100 philosophic dialogues as well as many short stories and poems.

About the Book
In this captivating conversation, two smart people discuss what love is and why it needs to be pondered to be appreciated. Is love merely attraction, or a boost to our ego? Do some people really "fall in love all the time"?

The book is not...

In this captivating conversation, two smart people discuss what love is and why it needs to be pondered to be appreciated. Is love merely attraction, or a boost to our ego? Do some people really "fall in love all the time"?

The book is not just abstract philosophy - Nick offers some good advice for singles as well as for people who are keen to keep their love alive. Once you find your One, how do you keep the magic going?

Both characters are looking for the love of their lives, and they understand that the best way to find something is to be clear about what you want. So, while they consider what aspects are most important – looks, character, brains? Money? - And they also discuss a philosophical place to stand in while conducting the search.

It takes courage to start a conversation when you feel you may have a lot at stake, and it takes courage to walk away from “good enough” in order to be free to find “the One.” How do you get close without being burned? How do you avoid hurting another person?

The ideas in this book are presented in short snippets that can be read in just a few minutes at a time, or all in the course of one long and lovely evening. Pull up a chair and join the conversation!


Introduction
This book consists of one long conversation between Director and Handsome on the topic of love.

Who are these characters? Why don’t they have traditional names?

Director is the one constant throughout the books I’ve written. He is a philosopher, and he does what you might expect a philosopher to do. Handsome appears only in this...

This book consists of one long conversation between Director and Handsome on the topic of love.

Who are these characters? Why don’t they have traditional names?

Director is the one constant throughout the books I’ve written. He is a philosopher, and he does what you might expect a philosopher to do. Handsome appears only in this book. He is, as you might guess, handsome.

From Director’s name we gather that he, well, directs. When I first conceived of him, I saw him as working in a company as a manager. That happened to be at a time when I, too, was working in a company as a manager. But, and I can’t stress this enough — Director isn’t, and never was, me. None of my characters are me. None of my characters are anyone else in real life, for that matter.

Director is my idea of a philosopher. As such, he helps lead the conversations in my books. His name reminds us that he is often directing, even when he does so in less than obvious ways.

And isn’t this how it once was? Someone named Weaver wove. Someone named Baker baked. So it is with my characters.

But what does Handsome do? He simply is; he is handsome. Naming him Handsome allowed me to keep present to the reader his looks throughout the conversation, as happens in life. But after a while, ideally, the name becomes merely a name. One forgets, or rather discounts the fact, that the other is good looking (or bad looking, or passing indifferent). One focuses simply on what is said.

And what is said is meant to be basic, simple. In my opinion, this is how we get to the fundamental. Accordingly, there is no prerequisite for a good understanding of this book.

I found the above quote from Francis Bacon, though it may seem dated, to be especially appropriate because of what it says about perfecting mankind. My book is about love in general, but I trust you’ll sense an underlying concern with what he calls friendly love.

I hope you enjoy it.

— Nick Pappas


Table of Contents

Introduction

1. Play

2. Handsome

3. Roughly Matched

4. Beautiful Minds

5. Superior

6. Appreciation, Equality

7. Roles

8. Self-Esteem?

9. Attraction

10. Nothing

11. Something

12. Best

13. Handsome, 2

14. Truth

15. Choice

16. Growing

17. Saving It

18. Attraction, 2

19. The Intimacy of Growth

20. The End

21. Growth Defined

22. Outward

23. Friends And Wholes

24. Wings

25. Fleeting Love

26. Melting

27. Sun

28. What It Is

29. Hate

30. A Suggestion

31. Intense, Opposed

32. Insecurity

33. Balance

34. Jealousy

35. Protection

36. Doubt

37. Love, Relationships

38. Integrity

39. At First Sight

40. Director

41. Force

42. Massive Objects

43. Orbiting

44. Mass

45. The Ideal

46. A Model

47. The Source

48. Helping

49. Education

50. Power

51. Fame

52. Summing It Up

53. Love Me For Me

54. Profoundly Un-Profound

55. Faking

56. Infatuation

57. Fleeting Love, 2

58. Appreciating

59. Good, Better, Happy

60. Fulfillment

61. Better and Happy

62. Love

63. In Love

64. Tragic

65. Light and Sparkling

66. The Game

67. A Problem

68. Deep and Clear

69. Friends and Lovers

70. At Bottom

71. Muck

72. Ground

73. Circles

74. Bad Circles

75. Ambassadors

76. Together

77. Teaching and Learning

78. Harmony

79. Different Strings

80. Closer

 

81. Silence

82. Peace

83. Moving

84. Those Shoes

85. Excited By Excitement

86. Money Can’t

87. Free

88. A New Dance?

89. Touch

90. What If

91. Luck

92. Ears, Eyes

93. The Nose

94. Meant To Be

95. Simmers and Boils

96.  One And Only One

97. Release

98. No Madness Here

99. Fools

100. At First Sight, 2

101. The Wrong Kind Of Love

102. The Leap

103. The Ones

104. Ending It

105. Vigor

106. Common Sense

107. Ignorant

108. Pain

109. Beautiful

110. Something Else

111. Soul

112. Help

113. Clues

114. Make Good

116. Scaring Them Off

117. Mistake, Next Step

118. Gentleness

119. Anything Else?

120. Need to Know

121. What’s Good For Me

122. Why Not

123. Sparks

124. Worth It

125. Believing In Love

126. Understanding

127. The Lists

128. Lies and Untruths

129. Bonds

130. Purity, Foundation

131. Falling Apart

132. Friends

133. The One?

134. A Debt Of Gratitude

135. In Common

136. Normal, Philosophical

137. Philosophy

138. Philosophy’s House

139. Walking Away

140. A Mind of Your Own

141. Domination

142. Born To Be

143. Planning

144. More Than Luck

145. Flirting

146. Serious

147. Weight

148. Laughter

149. Air

150. Rekindling

151. The Comic

152. The Tragic

153. Stronger

154. Ambition

155. Music

156. Pretension, Reason

157. Love the Music

158. A Love Who Loves

159. Appreciation

160. Degrees of Unique?

161. End

 



Pages 214
Year: 2016
BISAC: FAM029000 FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Love & Romance
BISAC: FAM051000  FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Dating
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